Does this date make my butt look big?

This week I had a first date. My guess is there won't be a second one but hey, you do the best you can, right?

The hour or so before there I was standing in front of an open closet perusing every piece of clothing I have. Unsatisfied. Wanting more. You know that feeling.

I had just bought a dress over the weekend and in the fitting room it looked very mod, flattering, tres chic even.

And then I put it on at home. It was like a garbage bag with a huge tie around the middle. The only flattering part was I now looked like a bona fide "cinch sack" and I was growing frustrated as the time to meet my date got closer.

Who knows if he didn't call back because of my hefty bag or maybe my split ends. The fact is that we (as women) tend to second guess or fabulousness on first dates. We're worried about what to wear, how to style our hair, and what perfume to spritz.

I always second guessed wearing jeans on a first date because I'd be categorized as a "jeans girl". But if I wore a dress I'd be categorized some other way. The truth is you can be categorized any way you cut it. So at the end of the day you just have to wear what's right, what suits you, and be who you are.

Tomorrow is another first date and I couldn't be more excited. I will approach it differently. I wont think too hard. I wont under plan. I'll be exactly who I am - and who I've always been; a girl who is smart, strong, sure of herself. A fantastic person who can roll with the punches, hang with the boys and giggle with the girls.

So be yourself. Wear your jeans and tank top - and wear them proudly. Sport your LBD and rock it like it's the last one on earth. Do what feels right. Wear what feels good.

And don't worry about the rear view.