I had a short-lived dating experience with a guy that didn't like talking on the phone. On our first date he informed me of this "personal preference" which (because he was horribly cute) I understood completely and obliged.
I spent the next two months texting, emailing, and if I still had a Facebook account I probably would have poked him or thrown a sheep at him.
After a handful of dates the text messaging went from an every day occurrence to an every 4-5 day sporadic communication. I over analyzed every message I received and sent test text messages to make sure my service was still in tact. Did a period at the end of "I had a really great time with you" mean he was less excited than the message 2 minutes earlier that ended with an exclamation?
And if there was an exclamation point (or god forbid, a smiley face) at the end of a statement, I was day dreaming about our destination wedding and how I'd decide on my maid of honor (my sister and a really close friend will have to duke it out at some point).
When did emoticons begin to equate our level of interest for the opposite sex? There's no emoticon that says, "I really like you and think we should talk about where this is going" or even worse "I slept with someone else but will never do it again".
I also dated someone once that broke things off via email. I'll spare the details and include them in a later post but share the following words of wisdom:
Relationships are complicated. Dating is not. A guy that's interested will not communicate his affection in 250 characters or less. He'll use any method (be it plane, train, or even automobile) to let you know he's interested and the incoming message will always be crystal clear. Proverbial send.
4 comments:
"if I still had a Facebook account I probably would have poked him or thrown a sheep at him."
Seriously hilarious.
I love this post!
I once had someone break up with me via IM (AOL IM to be exact- just to give context to the year).
How tacky. He could've at least sent you an ecard or something :)
I was just asked out on a first date via text message...What has happened to communication?! I find it very frustrating that guys now find texting, emailing, and IMing a proper way to communicate. I am currently in the same boat as you were--I am left right now wondering what the texts mean, why only IMing, and why only emailing? This screams "FRIEND!" to me, but yet some of the actions speak louder than words...I think the next nice guy I meet, I am going to tell I don't own a computer, nor do I have a text messaging package on my phone...
Dear Anonymous -
Take it back to the old school!
Tell him your plan doesn't support text messaging. The way things are going men will be sending us virtual flowers and apologizing with ecards.
Shameful.
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